In your lifetime, you'll run into 6 different types of people: students, teachers, steps, entertainers, crutches and companions. After reading this, you'll know which one of these types you are as well as which types you're compatible with. You'll also know the pros and cons of each type. Keep this in mind however, most people won't be just one type. More than likely you'll come across people who are a mixture of 2-3 types. Additionally, people will go through type phases where they start off as one type and transition into another.
This is where i am in life. The name obviously lets you know that these types crave knowledge, which means they can be taught. They are usually willing to admit when they need help, even the prideful ones. Students are very motivated and are generally appreciative and humble.
The down side to students is they will put on a front for other students. They don't want other students to know how much knowledge they lack. Another con is they are known to become dependent on their teachers. They also suffer from "analysis paralysis," which means they tend to overthink things. This overthinking causes them to procrastinate or not take action at all.
As you may have guessed, teachers are the counterparts to students. Obviously they have a knack for sharing knowledge in a palatable way. They make very good mentors and are usually willing to help a good student, especially if that student reminds them of themselves.
Beware of teachers who used to be bad students. They don't mind teaching, but their information is probably wrong. Another con of teachers is if they don't see any value in you as a student, then they'll see teaching you as a waste of time. The more lenient teachers often become Crutches. So much to the point where they take on too many students and become unavailable when you need them most.
Steps are basically push-overs. They are very easy to take advantage of. These are the type of people that build your self-esteem, because being around them makes you feel superior. They will bend over backwards to make you happy now matter how you treat them in return. They're very kindhearted. They're essentially toilet paper. Use them, abuse them and get rid of them.
They may be push-overs, but every push-over has a breaking point. Once they reach that point, there's no telling how they'll react yo being used. They might cut you off; they might cut your throat. Another con is they're sometimes depressing to be around. It's easy to take advantage of someone if you're the only one doing it, but when you see the rest of the world doing the same thing to them, that shit is a little sad. Be aware, if your self-esteem isn't where it needs to be then their low self-esteem might rub off on you. The final con is other people will view you as an asshole for taking advantage of a step.
Entertainers are all around fun people. They'll help you to relieve stress. They're also the perfect people to hit up when you're bored. They are very charismatic and having any type of relationship with them will raise your social status.
The things most people don't like about entertainers is they can't take anything serious. More than likely that's a defense mechanism to mask some psychological pain. Another thing you may notice, is they're pretty boring outside of their element. If they're not in the mood to be the life of the party, then they'll become a waste of space.
A Crutch is similar to a Step in that they are dependable and kindhearted. They are also group-oriented. The main difference between the two is that Crutches are usually strong-willed and self-reliant. They'll do what they can to help you, but their self-esteem isn't tied to their ability to benefit others.
If you already have a Crutch in your life, they probably secretly hate you and a lot of the kind things they do for you are out of reluctance. These are the type of people who, for some reason, just can't tell you "No."
They also tend to bite off more than they can chew, which might be detrimental to their own lives. You might confuse these types with Steps, but they have a way lower breaking point. Keep in mind, they're helping you to be nice, but they will cut you off if they sense you're unappreciative.
These types are the most well-rounded as far as psychological stability goes. In the romantic sense, I guess you could call them "soul mate." More than likely these types of people become your best friends. You guys have similar likes and dislikes. You also feel comfortable being yourself around these people.
Companions tend to turn into Crutches, because they are so hard to replace, people become dependent on them. As trustworthy as Companions are, they are still human and sometimes will switch up on you during major life changes. Another huge issue, is you will always be competing with others for their attention, since other people will want to have them in their lives as well.
All in all, I say you should keep at least one of every type of person around you. It's always good to have diverse company.
Looks like cops killed another innocent black guy and people are pissed about it. I hate seeing this shit, but it pops up on the news and social media so much that I've become desensitized to it. I already know there will be protest that essentially don't help anyone. I also know that these peaceful protests will eventually turn into riots. Even though none of this is out of the ordinary, I've had an epiphany. The protests and riots actually do make a difference.
Don't get me wrong. I'm still refusing to be apart of any of it, but now I understand their importance. Specifically, I understand the riots. And that includes the looting, killing, burning and destruction of both private and public property. Riots are meant to garner the attention of people like me; people who choose to ignore the issues at hand.
Some people see the riots as aimless chaos, but let me clarify that chaos. The goal is to make EVERYONE suffer every time black people face an injustice. That way, EVERYONE has to be involved in the solution. If its a possibility that you'll lose your job, your home, your business, your kids or even your own life EVERY time a cop kills an innocent black person, then you'll be more likely to help prevent that. You'll even want to participate in punishing bad cops.
It's kind of like in the military. If you fuck up, your superiors make all your colleagues do push-ups. To make matters worse, you don't have to do any push-ups at all. This breeds a little animosity from your buddies. Now, your colleagues have incentive to make sure you don't fuck up again. And if you do, they'll punish you themselves.
Better yet, think of it this way. Imagine a guy with a bomb strapped to his chest running into a store you're shopping at streaming, "Give me $20 or I'll kill us all!" He's not talking directly to you and you may not care about his life or anyone else's, but would that really stop you from giving him the money if you had it? The riots could have the same effect. If you're negatively impacted by the current riots, then you'll be more likely to do whatever you can to prevent more in the future. The best way to prevent these riots is to quit fucking with black people for no reason.
Me and millions of people who think like me, haven't been active enough in the fight against injustice; specifically the injustices black people face when dealing with the law. As a result of our complacency, innocent black people have continued to be murdered, framed, harassed and wrongfully arrested by crooked and incompetent police.
I used to be one of those people that said, "None of this protesting is going to make a difference" or "Messing your own neighborhoods isn't going to get any results," but I've slightly changed my stance. I still have little faith in getting results from peaceful protests, outside of spreading awareness. But I will say, protests open the doors for riots, which are crucial for change, if their impact is large enough.
Public uproars like this usually don't make a huge difference. And the reason they usually don't is because people normally calm down after a couple weeks and go back to their normal lives. But this situation is a little different than most. A lot of people don't have school or jobs to go back to, so they have all the time in the world to cause chaos. Not to mention, a lot of people have been stuck in the house itching to get out and do anything social.
So what's next? Depends on everyone fighting, really. If they can keep this up until it effect most people, then they have a good chance of making a major change in this country. I will warn you, though. This is war and wars have casualties on both sides. Our neighborhoods will burn along with theirs. Innocent people on both sides will die; even people not involved. Be prepared to lose everything you love for the sake of people you'll never meet.
When it comes to dating, there is a very distinct difference between how men and women choose mates. It's actually similar to how a lot of other animals choose mates. Men take the shotgun approach. They know exactly what they want, and they'll put forth a decent effort while shooting their shot, but will take whatever they can hit. Most men aren't super picky, especially if they don't fall in the top 20% of men as far as height, income, looks and confidence.
Women, on the other hand are passive choosers. Their strategy involves making themselves available to many men at once and then taking their pick of the best ones. Usually the men they choose outrank them in some kind of way that's significant to them. For example, an intelligent women is going to choose a guy that's smarter than her or a woman who makes $80k/yr is going to choose a guy who makes $100k/yr. Whatever she values most, the man she chooses will more than likely outdo her in that particular thing. Because of these chosen tactics, woman generally date up, and as a result, most men date down. But some women wind up date down and here are the main reasons why:
Yep, she's just plain old stupid. She has a checklist of everything she wants in a man and she thinks her current guy satisfies 90% or more of the list, but half of the list includes qualities he can easily trick her into thinking he has, like "faithfulness." Either that, or she's in denial. In the back of her mind she knows she can do better, but she tries not to think about it. Why ruin a good thing by looking for something better right?
She's just fat, ugly or has some other trait that high quality men try to avoid like kids or an attitude problem. She has plenty of options, as most women do, but her options are relatively no better than her. If she's a 3 then most of the guys that hit on her are going to be 3s or worse. And if she does manage to bag a 4+, she'll be used to cure his blue balls until he builds up the courage to talk to a 5+.
She is decent looking, if not bad, but has vulnerable self-esteem. More than likely, she was ugly/fat in the past so she grew accustomed to dating low quality guys. As her looks improved, her self-esteem remained the same. She gets hit on by high quality guys, but she feels like she's not worthy of having one so she restricts her choices to low quality men. She could also be on the rebound. She might usually date up, but right now, she just needs ANY guy to help her take her mind off her ex, even if she's out of his league.
She is a fucking unicorn. She's a 10 as far as looks, smart, makes 6 figures, has no kids, she has the full package. Problem is, there aren't any single men in her social circles that can show her up in any category. She's better than every man she meets in every way. She has no choice but to date down.
Ruined all good opportunities
To keep it simple, she's a bitch. She had plenty of chances to date up but she fuck up all her opportunities. Maybe she cheated and got caught, maybe she nagged all her exes to death or maybe she waited to long to settle down and is now past her prime. Maybe she's a 7 that feels like she deserves a 10 but all she got hit on was 8s and 9s. Now that she's lost some of her looks, she only gets hit on by 5s and 6s. Who knows. All she knows is she could've been happy with one of the guys she met/dated in the past but she ran them all off somehow.
Oh yes, this is a common one. She's pretty much just checking for niggas with big dick prints in their sweat pants. She's trying to get the bottom knocked out of her pussy before settling down and being someone's boring ass wife. She's looking for quantity; not quality. If she's drunk enough or she feels like you can fuck the shit out of her, then you got a shot.
Trying something new
So she's been dating high quality men for awhile now, and she's starting to realize that the type of men she's attracted to the most always turn out to be fuck boys. They cheat on her, lie to her, beat her, steal from her, are emotionally unavailable, never take her out on formal dates, etc. Now she wants to try dating outside her preference to see if the guys she's been passing on will treat her any better. They probably will, but unfortunately, she's clearly out of their leagues.
So, there you have it. This is why you sometimes see a bad bitch with some short, fat, ugly nigga with no fashion sense. It isn't because he's really funny or has some amazing game. More than likely, he got lucky and met the right chick at the right time. Remember, if you're close enough, a shot gun will hit exactly what you're aiming at.
I want to kill myself, but I don't want to waste all this potential. A better way to put it, would be that I'm tired of living; MY life, at least. I'm tired of bills, tired of traffic, tired of people, places, things; I'm just fucking tired. On the outside looking in, I probably seem like I have life figured out and for the most part I do. That's partially why it would be dumb for me to end it now. There's at least another 10 years worth of effort left in me; it just doesn't feel like it.
When I was younger, I thought suicide was the coward's way out. As I got older, I realized that I had it backwards. Suicide victims aren't the cowards; it's the ones who go on living. The cowards are the ones who literally have nothing to look forward to tomorrow or any of the days following. The cowards are the ones who broadcast to the world that they're thinking about doing "it," in hopes of reaching someone who will "talk them out of it." The cowards want a fucking medal for being too pussy to, for once, take life into their own hands.
It's funny, because while I'm writing this, I realize I'm a fucking coward. No matter how much I think about doing it; I know I won't. I know how I would do it just in case I change my mind, but chances are I reach that level of success I've always dreamed of and then I'll have the opposite problem. More than likely, I'll obtain everything I've ever wanted in life and struggle to hang on to it due to my fear of losing it all when I die.
Now, before anyone of you flood my social media or phone with half-assed pity posts/texts, please ask yourself this one question:
"Who am I, to persuade another ADULT, to live a life they HATE, just to avoid sadness in MY life?"
This is a quote from one of the greatest beings to ever walk the face of this earth. And that person, is me, because I'm a goddamn poet! I really want you to pay attention to my choice of words, especially the capitalized ones.
First there is "ADULT." I emphasived this word to remind y'all that I'm a grown ass man and I'll do whatever the fuck I want with "MY" life. Even though I've already admitted that I'm just talking out my ass right now, people are still going to try and "persuade" me to live on. Don't bother. I'm not crazy, depressed or have any other mental illness, so if I do decide to kill myself, just know that I was in my right mind. Just assume that I've already presented every possible anti-suicide argument to myself and logic determined that death was the best option for me.
Next major word, is "HATE." If I'm at the point where I hate my life and you are apart of said life, then what makes you think that you're going to be the life-altering factor in my decision? Your "sadness" due to my passing obviously means nothing to me, because I wasn't living for you. If I don't know you at all, then you are even less of a factor. It's weird how so many people can be pro-choice when it comes to a parent killing their child, but a lot of those same people feel like potential suicide victims should relinquish the choice of killing themselves.
Any way, I'll be around for at least another 20 years if I stay away from salt. This rant isn't so much about me as it is about my thoughts on suicide in general. If someone WANTS to die, who are you to stop them? I almost feel like thoughts of suicide are apart of natural selection. I say let evolution do it's thing. By the way, I'm pro-choice; I hate traffic and kids. I say all that to say this; kudos to the suicide heroes who had big enough balls to "put up or shut up." You have earned my respect.
Good liars don't lie; they exaggerate the truth.
How do you become a good liar? It's pretty easy; just stop lying. Right about now, you're probably thinking, "What the fuck is this nigga talking about? If I was comfortable telling the truth all the time, then I wouldn't care about being a good liar." Just hear me out. Have you ever been accused of lying even though you were telling the truth? If so, then you suck at telling the truth and you probably suck at lying too.
The reason people always think you're lying, even when you're not, is because you ARE always lying. On top of that, you're so bad at lying that you've been caught in too many lies to have any credibility when you actually tell the truth. Most bad liars have a tell, which is a change in body language/speech pattern whenever they lie. Other people, especially women, pick up on this either consciously or subconsciously and that's how they know you're lying.
An example of an obvious tell would be forced eye contact. A rumor was spread long ago that liars generally avoid eye contact while speaking. Because of this "common knowledge," liars purposefully stare you down while talking to you, even to the point of awkwardness.
When you consistently lie to the same people, they become conditioned to seeing/hearing you in a lying state. Whenever someone's body language/speech pattern switches up, that change is picked up by the person listening and they get a weird feeling, like something is "off." That feeling is normally followed by the thought, "This lying motherfucker."
This leads to a couple of problems. The first problem with horrible habitual liars, is that they give off this same weird vibe when they're telling the truth. The second problem, is most people have been conditioned to associate that weird feeling with being lied to. This is why people don't believe you when you tell the truth. Either your body language or word choice doesn't match with what you are saying.
Here's an example. Let's say your significant other asks you if you love them. It's a "yes" or "no" question, so a truthful answer requires either a "yes" or a "no" response. Any answer you give that doesn't include the words, "yes" or "no" is going to come off as a lie. If you don't immediately respond with a, "Yes," then the honest answer is obviously a "No." A lot of people try to sugarcoat their "no" by saying shit like, "Uh....well, I really care about you and blah blah blah." This comes off as a lie, even if its true, especially if the awkwardness of the situation has you stumbling over your words or fumbling around with something in yours hands.
So what is the solution? Just stop lying. Tell 100% of the truth 100% of the time from now on. When someone asks you something, just respond truthfully. Take it even a step farther by volunteering brutal honesty. Get mean with it. Don't give long answers to short questions, either. If someone asks a "yes or no" question, then give them a "yes or no" response. Once you've regained their trust, that's when you can start lying to them again.
As I've stated at the beginning of this post, good liars don't lie; they exaggerate the truth. What do I mean by this? Here is a good example. A lawyer says, "My client is innocent" even though their client definitely did the crime. The lawyer is stretching the truth. We all know the phrase "innocent until proven guilty." Well, that means you are legally innocent of any crimes you are accused of if there isn't sufficient evidence. Even if the lawyer's client did the crime, if the evidence says otherwise or isn't strong enough, then technically the defendant is "innocent."
Here is another example. Let's say you're a guy texting a girl you've been trying to fuck for a while. It's around 11pm and you both have been texting back and forth for about an hour or so. You suggest a "Netflix and chill" date and she agrees if you are willing to pick her up and drop her off in the morning. You ask for the address then don't get a response until 12pm the next day. Her excuse is that she fell asleep. Now, she actually did fall asleep, but her excuse implies she fell asleep before your last message was sent, which is the exaggeration. The truth is, she didn't read your message until the next day because she spent the night fucking another guy at his house. The lie is simple, but believable. It's hard to doubt how tired someone could be at 11pm and I'm sure a lot of you have fallen asleep during a phone call or texting conversation. I know I have.
This is how it's done. If you want to be a good liar, then every lie you tell must have a little bit of truth to it. A lot of liars try to get too creative with the shit they come up with. Just don't. Keep it simple. Keep details to a minimum. Think of this shit like a bank robbery. Get in. Get the money. Get out.
I shouldn't be aware of your sexuality within the first 30 seconds of meeting you. Quit being a fag!
First in foremost, I'll make this one thing clear. Your dietary preference does not matter to me. I don't care if you eat dick or pussy. Whatever you decide to munch on, is your business. What does bother me, is when people broadcast their sexual preference so strongly that I have no choice but to notice it. For example, a super flamboyant, feminine, gay guy with the stereotypical lisp and limp wrists.
It's going to seem like I'm leaning towards a gay bashing rant, but it bothers me just as much when straight people do it. Although, I do tend to see this more with the gays than the straights. Especially gay men. But just so I have a heterosexual equivalent; another example would be a hyper masculine straight guy that goes out of his way to make eye contact or conversation with me every...single...time an attractive woman crosses our path. Another example would be turning everything into a "That's what she said" joke. It was funny in high school, and college, and maybe a year or two after that, but it needs to stop now.
Maybe this is my ignorance talking, but you don't have to ACT gay just because you ARE gay. Just like you don't have to say "No homo" to prove you're straight. Currently, I'm undecided on where people get their mannerisms, but I feel like at least half of it is learned while the rest comes naturally. It would make sense that some of your mannerisms would come from your parents, since their the ones raising you, but part of me thinks it might be hereditary.
When I think of my own mannerisms, I remember how I used to chew on my shirt collars. Apparently, my pops used to do the same thing, but I never actually saw him do it. It was brought to my attention by my mom's one day as she was nagging me to stop. Not because I was ruining my shirts; but because my parents were divorced at this point and I was reminding her of my pops. This leads me to believe that this was a hereditary mannerism. Another mannerism I had was patting my head when it itched. This, I also got from my pops, but was definitely a learned behavior. His reason for doing this was to prevent messing up his current hair style while also avoiding the act of flaking up any unseen dandruff. Now that I have dreads, I don't do this as much as when I rocked braids.
In my opinion, your sexual preference isn't a choice, but the way you portray yourself is. It's fairly easy to notice that most people have both feminine and masculine traits. But my question to a lot of gay guys is, "Why are you exaggerating your feminine traits?" What's even weirder, is when straight guys do the same exact thing. To them I ask, "Why are you acting like a fag?" And if you're offended by the word "fag" the you can eat a dick and replace it with the word "metrosexual" or "feminine" or whatever. I don't give a fuck.
Women aren't free from my criticism either. As much as I enjoy the company of stud women, they are in the same boat as fags. Why do you feel the need to prove how "manly" you are to me when your main goal should be using all that masculinity to attract pussy? They are nowhere near as annoying as fags. In fact, they might be my favorite group of people to hang around. I may be biased, but I've never had a bad experience with a stud female before. Most men tend to not like hyper masculine women, but I'm the opposite. Mainly, because I don't feel the need to tone down my masculinity to make them comfortable. So I guess what I'm saying is, we need less fags and more studs.
Lately, I've been seeing a lot of memes and Facebook statuses from females giving other females tips on how to "keep a man." It's funny reading all these cliche quotes like "A way to a man's heart is his stomach" and "A blowjob a day keeps the hoes away." What's so funny to me is females associate a man's happiness with his loyalty. They assume that if they keep their man happy that he won't have a reason to look elsewhere for new pussy. I'm sorry to say this, but uh............EHN! WRONG!!!
While keeping a man happy in a relationship is fairly simple and straight forward; getting him to remain faithful is going to be more of a challenge. And I'm speaking from my own experience and from spending the majority of my social time with other guys who are completely different from me. Unless you are an expert in manipulation, it's damn near impossible to "keep a man." My dick does not care how happy I am with you. It still thinks I'll be happier inside the girl that works at the grocery store down the street or your best friend or whoever is about throwing some ass at your boy.
Now, I'm not saying it's impossible for a man to be faithful. Obviously, it can be done. I've done it and seen it done successfully quite a few times. What I am saying is as a woman, there is nothing you can do to prevent your man from cheating or just flat out dumping you for someone else. It doesn't matter how good of a cook you are or how easily you can suck the skin off his dick or how good your pussy game is. It doesn't matter if you keep your hair and nails done or if you have an amazing personality. Do men appreciate those things? Yes. Does doing these things make a man happy? Of course. But you are missing the underlying issue. Happiness does not equal security.
If it's that easy to "keep a man" then it only makes sense that it would be just as easy for another woman to take him. As far as cooking goes, how hard could it be to season something and then heat it up without burning it? How much better could your head/pussy game be compared to the next chick? No matter what you are doing for your man to "keep him," there are plenty more women where you came from that can do the same if not more.
You could argue that a fully satisfied man has no reason to look for a new woman even if something better out there exists. That would be a good argument if men were actually that two-dimensional. Think about it this way. If you are completely satisfied with how steak tastes and you decide it's your favorite food, does that stop you from trying chicken? No, because no matter how much you enjoy one thing, you'll always want to try other things. It might not even be to find something better, but for variety. And yes, I did compare women to pieces of meat, but that's exactly what humans are made of; muscle and fat.
Some would argue that spicing up the relationship will add enough variety to keep a man entertained. EHN! WRONG AGAIN! Switching positions doesn't make you a different bitch. Role playing doesn't make you a different bitch. Coming up with new date activities doesn't make you a different bitch. All of these things are necessary for a long relationship, but they don't guarantee it. At the end of the day, it all comes down to this: DIFFERENT IS BETTER. The next bitch doesn't literally have to be better than you because in your man's eyes, she is new. Look, I like McDonald's menu the way it is, but if they add some new shit to it then I'm definitely trying it at least once.
Growing up, I've always wanted to be a celebrity, specifically a rapper. But as I saw that there were different types of celebrities; I wanted their lives too. There were comedians, chefs, producers, actors, voice actors, directors, writers, pro ball players, wrestlers, porn star, etc. I wanted to be them all. On some level, I still do want their lives. Rapping is looking like my best shot at becoming one of the rich and famous and I realized that early on. Music was something I always had a knack for. What I didn't have, was perspective.
When you are a fan, the life of a celebrity looks ten times better than any life you could acquire as a successful nobody. To a certain extent, that's true. The problem with being an idolizing fan is that you only see the good stuff. Not only that, but you usually don't recognize someone until thousands or millions of other people acknowledge them first. Obviously, that's what it means to be a celebrity, but that's not the whole picture. What you don't see, is the grind.
Most of you know what the grind is. You probably heard your favorite rapper say he started out poor so he had to hustle drugs to get by. We've all heard of the actress busting tables in LA while she awaits a callback from some team of movie execs for a part she auditioned for. You know the pro athlete that had to workout twice a day for years just to be good enough to tryout for the team. That's the grind. We HEAR about the grind, but we never actually SEE the grind. And this is what throws off our perspective.
You may have seen someone early in their career before they became what they are today, but at that point, you more than likely missed the actual grind. You never see the hard work they put in. You never see them constantly fail. You never see them at the brink of completely giving up. You don't see the rejection, the bankruptcy, the homelessness, the jail time, the broken families, or the suicide attempts. All you see is the product of their determination.
I say all of that to make this point. I hate when an average ass person tries to diminish the hard work put in by another by saying things like, "I'd have a body like that too if I could afford a personal trainer" or "It's easy to fuck a super model when you have a million dollars" or "I'm more talented than that guy; he just got lucky." Don't get me wrong, I understand hating on someone else's accomplishments because they're better than you. But talent means nothing if you don't have hard work to back it up.
Celebrities aren't inherently better than you. They become better than you by wanting to be better and then actually acting on that desire to be great. That's it. That action star didn't get his six pack from his trainer. He got it from working out and dieting. That singer may naturally have a good singing voice, but she's famous because she practiced her dance moves, performed at countless open mics and networked with the right people. That CEO of the billion dollar company didn't just inherit everything he has. He dropped out of college to pick up 3 part-time jobs so he could afford to build a prototype of an invention he imagined. Then he created a business plan and implemented it. There is nothing these people did that you couldn't. You just don't have their drive.
Quit acting like success falls out if the sky. Quit acting like the only difference between you and a celebrity you envy is dumb luck, good genes, inherited wealth or knowing the right people. The only difference between the elite and you is the fact that they try harder. You set a goal. They set a higher goal. You try. They try harder. You fail and give up on the 1st or 2nd attempt. They fail and continue failing until they succeed. Admit it. The only thing you've ever put 100% effort into is making excuses. No matter how glorious someone looks at the finish line, you'll never know how hard they had to work to get there unless you take a walk in their shoes.
Recently, I've come to the realization that there is no such thing as a bad thought. There is no such thing as a good thought either, for that matter. Thoughts are simply, neutral. Sure, you can think of something that makes you feel good/bad, but I'm referring more to inherent good/evil.
Your thoughts don't have the power to help or harm someone the same way your actions do. There's a huge difference between "bad thoughts" and "evil deeds." You can argue that thinking is an action and since the word "think" is a verb, that's technically correct. But it would be hard to argue that thinking about giving that homeless guy some change does him just as much good as actually dropping a few pennies in his cup.
It seems the idea of thoughts being good/bad is biblical. I'm pretty sure somewhere in the bible it says thinking about sinning is just as bad as committing that sin, which is dumb. We all know that thinking about something and actually doing it have vastly different results. Planning out a murder in your head will never hold as much weight as actually going through with the murder.
Another reason I don't think there is such a thing as good/bad thoughts is how the human consciousness works. You can't fully control your thoughts and choosing to be good/evil is a conscious decision. Too many many of our day to day thoughts are passive. We aren't consciously deciding on the exact thoughts we have throughout the day.
In order for thoughts to be good/evil they would at the very least have to be fully conscious. Compare passive thoughts to a conscious action. If you know society's definitions of right and wrong, then performing a good/bad deed is a conscious decision.
At some point, guilt and come into the picture. Some people feel guilty for their "bad" thoughts, because they know of a person or group that would be offended by those thoughts. What people must realize, is no one is offended by thoughts they aren't aware of. Just because you think a "bad" thought, that doesn't mean you are a bad person.
At the end of the day, your thoughts don't affect the world outside of your mind. Shit, if you can't be completely free of societal bindings in your own head, then where can you expect any type of freedom? It's your mind; do what you want with it.
Growing up, I would hear rappers brag about how much money they had and how many hoes they were fucking. Usually the phrase, "It ain't trickin' if you got it," would get thrown around. Now, I thought I knew what that meant. I assumed this was a bunch of guys whose only means of getting pussy was to pay for it and they coined this saying to justify their actions. This was partially true, but I was missing the bigger picture.
It always helps to define the topic of discussion as to not cause confusion so here is my definition of "tricking."
Tricking - Exchanging money for a sexual favor.
This was the first definition I used and has been the only one I've used until recently. After spending some time and listening to old heads with money who have and still do pay for pussy, I learned that we had different definitions of the word. The rich man's definition of tricking is as follows:
Tricking (rich man's definition) - Spending money you don't have on women you can't afford.
My problem, besides being broke, was that I was letting pride blind me from what these rappers were actually saying. What I originally heard was, "I didn't have enough game to fuck bad bitches when I was broke and I still don't, but now that I'm rich, I can just buy the pussy."
What they were really saying was, "I'm at a point in my life where time IS money and it's a lot more efficient to just throw away a handful of cash that I have to burn vs spending a bunch of time I don't have to seduce a bitch that might not fuck."
Once I started making a lot more money, things became more clear to me. It isn't just rappers who think this way. It's ALL rich guys. When you're capable of making a ridiculous amount of money in a short amount of time, then your time becomes just as valuable as money, if not more.
It comes down to simple math. Let's say you chose your own work schedule and whenever you work, you make $100/hr. You obviously have to eat, sleep, shower etc. so let's also say after those things are done, you have 10 work hours left. That means you can potentially make $1000/day.
You meet a girl you want to fuck, but she makes you jump through hoops for the pussy. She requires that you text her every day, talk on the phone every other day, and take her on a date once a week. After 2 weeks, you finally get the draws, but it altogether took 20 hours to get to that point. That's $2000 you lost not working; not to mention the money you spent on dates.
On the other hand, you meet an equally fuckable woman who will do whatever you want for $100/hr. You don't have to text, call or take her on dates. You fuck her for 30 minutes on day 1. You lose $50 for the work time lost and another $50 to pay her. All in all, you're only down $100, which can be made back in an hour and you didn't have to wait 2 weeks to fuck. It literally costs you more than 20 times that to get pussy from the first chick through traditional means. Some might say $100 is too pricey for something you can essentially get for free, but $100 ain't shit if you make $1000/day. Why go through the hassle of working for pussy when you can work for money instead and let the pussy work for you?
Mature thought lead me to realize that you always pay for the pussy one way or another. The reason I had such disdain for tricking and those who did it was because I was forced to develop my game in order to consistently get the same results. It never occurred to me that earning enough money to trick in the first place was even harder; not to mention its harder still to earn more than that just so what you're doing is no longer considered tricking.
That may seem a little confusing to some. Let's back track. I am in no way condoning the art of tricking. Like I stated earlier, my new definition is spending money you DON'T have on women you CAN'T afford. Read that carefully. It's not considered tricking if you still have a butt load of money leftover when you're finished. It's also not tricking if you can afford to do it on a regular basis without it hindering other aspects of your life. That's why, "It ain't trickin' if you got it!"
I still haven't made that move to start a separate pussy Paypal account, but I'm highly considering it. Shit, when I look back on the amount of money I spent on dates and boyfriend duties, I might has well have been paying for the pussy outright. It definitely would've been cheaper, saved me a lot of time and gotten me badder bitches. Head my warning, though. If she ain't fucking, don't pay for shit. Many hoes will try to exploit your lust. Don't let them. And if you are tricking, please stop; at least until you get your bread up. Then your just making a purchase at that point.