One life lesson I've had to learn the hard way is to never stop looking for more than what I have. For some reason, that decent into complacency is one of the hardest traps to avoid. Time and time again, I get a good thing, knowing I can do better, but I remain content until something drastic happens. So here are the top 3 thing you should never stop looking for:
So many guys use pussy to measure their worth, but when they find consistent vag, they hang up their jerseys. I'll tell you right now, that makes absolutely no sense. That's like starting a business and after only 1 profitable day, you assume you can kick back and let the money roll in. Guys tend to do the same thing with women. They find a half way decent looking chick who isn't nearly as annoying as the last few exes, so they're convince they've found a fucking "unicorn."
One of my OGs warned me by saying, "Beware the drought." What he meant by that was, don't put yourself in a position that will leave you looking/acting thirsty. We've all been there. You find some consistent poon and she convinces you to cut off all your side hoes. Then after the honeymoon phase is over, something happens, and now you're single again. Now, there is nothing wrong with being single. There's nothing wrong with being in a committed relationship, either. The problem, is sitting at home with your dick in your hand because your side hoes forgot about you and you also let your game get rusty.
I personally, don't have a problem with cheating, but for those of you that do, that's not what I'm suggesting. Ideally, you'd just keep all your relationships open so that way your girl knows about your side hoes and is OK with them. The downside, is you have to be OK with her being dicked down by the guy who worked on your car last weekend. Another option, is to do what your girl is probably already doing. Just keep flirting with other girls. Keep going out with your friends and collecting phone numbers. Build up a roster of sideline women to fall back on.
Remember, don't knock up a bitch if she hasn't proven herself worthy of ALL your time and money. Obviously, you'd never give away all of either, but that's how sure you need to be about keeping her in your life. And if you change your mind right after busting that nut, just know that Plan B is better than no plan at all.
I don't support marriage at all, but I'll give some advice to those of you who go through with it any way. GET A PRENUP! I don't care if you don't have a cent to your name. Get one any way. You should be planning to level up your finances as you get older any way. If you have any ambition at all, you'll definitely have more to lose on day 3000 than you did on day 1. Think about it. How will you attract new bitches if the old one took half your shit?
I am completely guilty when it comes to being complacent at a gig. In the back of my hear I know that someone always has a better offer. ie. (better pay, better benefits, better hours, shorter commute, etc.) Remember, you are steadily increasing your value with experience. So the longer you work at one job; the more money you should feel comfortable asking for. You can't let yourself work a $15/hr job for 3 years and still only make $15/hr. Not to mention, you could get fired at any time for any reason.
Complacency kills goals. You're already gaining experience, so it couldn't hurt to stack up a few certifications or at least fill out a few applications to hire paying jobs every week. And for my workhorses out there, look for a 2nd gig, even if its just doing a few Door Dash/Postmates deliveries on the side. A steady check is cool, but multiple streams on income is even better. Imagine getting paid on Friday, then Monday, then the upcoming Friday again. Lovely.
I know this shit sounds corny, but you always need to be searching for happiness. You could stick to what you know like smoking, drinking, clubbing, video games etc. But get outside of your comfort zone from time to time. Try new shit.
What I like to do is, do group activities alone. For example, I've been going to the movie by myself for the last few years and its surprisingly refreshing. I go in the middle of the week right when the theaters open. I love it. No lines, no sticky floors, no kids, no people talking during the movie, no late friends making me miss the previews, no date to cash out on movie snacks. Try that shit.
Another thing I like to do is follow a little advice I got from this chick I met in Nairobi. She was a dirt poor single mother, but she always had a pleasant warmth to her. I could tell she been through a lot of shit, but she was hanging in there. She attributed her good outlook on life to being able to treat herself once a week. That was years ago, but that stuck with me. I don't do it every week, but I do try to treat myself to a little something on a regular basis. Usually something small like a meal from my favorite restaurant or a box of ammo.
At the end of the day, you need to make the most out of life by actually living it. If you can get to a place where you're content, then that's cool. But why stop there? Why settle for being content. You finally hit that bad bitch that's been flirting with you online? Well, see if she bout that threesome action. You find a 2nd job that hardly requires any real work? Well, take that extra paycheck and invest it. You finally lost that weight you gained in college? Well, now try to get a 6-pack. Never stop looking for something better.
This will be the home of my random thoughts until you really do know the MuffynMan.